By:
C. Chua
As of today, I’m retired from work and
life.
What do I mean? I mean that I’ll no
longer work or live life as conventional society deems me to. I’ll no longer
concern myself with monetary needs, societal statuses, creating a lifetime
of achievements, matching people’s expectations, and so on. I’ll just do my thing,
act the way I want to act, and live the life I want to live, void of
expectations and self-obligation—and trust that everything will work itself out
in the end.
Why? Technically I still have a good
four decades to go before I am considered fit for retirement. (The retirement
age in Singapore is 65 now. It was 62 previously and was extended to 65 last year, and is probably going to be 68 or even 70 by the time I’m in 50 or 60.)
I guess I just realized that life is too
short to be spent doing something, anything, I don’t want to do. Thinking back,
a good part of my life had been spent living for someone or something else.
From my studying years to my working years, I had constantly been in mad
pursuit of goals which were both set by myself and by the society.
While the pursuit of these goals had
made me a stronger and better person, the act of pursuing them
had made me defer the present moment in wait of a better future. It made me
constantly wonder “What’s next?” and look out into the future for greater
happiness rather than actively live in the present.
Now that majority of my life goals have
been achieved, I’m seeking for the next level-up where every moment of my life
is pure bliss. I have realized that this requires me to organically create my
life path from the present moment, based on my current passions and needs,
rather than constantly think about how to manipulate my present reality to
achieve a hypothetical future.
The latter focuses a lot on delayed
gratification (putting off your current needs), while the former is about being
aware of your current moment and nurturing it into a better moment the next.
The future:
(A point that isn’t here yet / Constant
obsessions)
How can I get there?
What should I do next?
The past:
How I was living in the past?
The present:
(Where we are at now / New thinking)
What do I feel like doing today?
What is inspiring me the most right now?
How I’m going to live starting from
today?
This is what I’m trying to convey too:
to live life in a child-like manner, based on today and now, rather than
worrying about what should be or what others might think!
On the surface it may not seem as though
anything is going to change. I’ll still be writing articles at the blog. I’ll
still be creating videos. I’ll still be taking on media interviews to
spread my message. I may still be creating new courses (I’m thinking of an
anti-procrastination course or a fear-crushing course next.) I’ll still be
creating new business ideas because I love conceptualizing, strategizing, and
creation. I’ll still be creating plans for my life because I love to plan.
However, on the micro-level, things will
be different. Instead of asking, “What’s next?” or “What should I do today to
achieve my goal?,” I will be asking myself, “What do I want to do today/right
now?.” Then, I will proceed to do just that. It’s a slightly, but
fundamentally, different approach to life that will create a different life
experience altogether.
This is more than just semantics. This
is something that’s going to change my life inside out. I’ve already begun
living this way for the past few weeks and I’m really liking the shift so far.
Gone are the days of negligent self-pressure, self-burdening, and life
deferment. What I’m experiencing now is true inspiration and passion, from
moment to moment. It’s like being in a perpetual state of flow.
To
You
For you reading this, I encourage
you to imagine you are retired now. What is the life you want to live? What is
your definition of true bliss? What is a dream reality to you?
Then, think about how you can create
that life right now, right now in this moment, rather than defer that life
to some distant future.
Because you don’t live in the future.
You live in the now. If you’re not completely happy today, in this present
moment, then when are you ever going to be happy? Happiness starts in the now.
If you want to live a happy life, you have to make happiness a present reality.
Then, build on your present to create a greater future.
I’m done putting off my present in
pursuit of a supposed better future. I invite you to do the same as me too—to
live in the present, make happiness a present reality, then use that to create
a marvelous life path as you move forward, rather than defer the current
reality for the future.
I’ll end off with this quote by
Confucious:
“Life is really simple, but we insist on
making it complicated.” ~ Confucious
Note:
Why I’m Retiring at 28 and Inviting You
To Do the Same – Orig title
Interesting post and makes perfect sense!
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